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Thanks for the share and what a great way to reframe your story! No matter how bad a system is, maybe except for some extreme cases, one never gains anything by feeding a victim mentality loop. And at the same time, I think it is valuable to criticize a system without considering oneself a victim of it. I guess the parenting style of my parents is a good example. I love my parents, and I have never felt like a “victim” of their way of parenting. But still, there are many things I disagree with and do differently as a father

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BTW, would love to see an essay about this with the framing of parenting

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Thats a good idea! I started to use substack a couple of months ago and I'm still learning a lot. I thought that I eventually would feel ready to start posting, but slowly realized that I probably never will "feel ready" (not sure what "ready" is supposed to feel like anyway). Guess one just has to jump into it:)

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Thanks Lars

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...really nice reframing...good reminder that we are the authors of our stories and what they say and mean is of our determination...

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🫡

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"School was awesome. It was exactly what I needed it to be." Such a powerful conclusion. I really admire your honesty and vulnerability. As someone who once dreamed of entering the academe but decided to change course, you had me agreeing with you all the way.

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Thanks Linart, and thanks for your reviewing help—always a joy to action your feedback :)

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The pleasure is mine. Great work on this, mate!

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🙏

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